How do i convience a loved one to quit drinking?
my boyfriend has an alcohol addict, but he say he doesn't have a problem. i have to bribe him so he won't bring beer home everynight after work. we purely had a baby 7 weeks ago, and i be hoping she would change his mind about drinking. that didn't crop up if anything it got worse. he comes home from work drinks a beer holds the baby, drinks more beer, next after she goes to sleep we end up argueing more or less his drinking. i don't want him to miss out on her life but i feel similar to i don't have an option. we both grew up near alcoholic fathers, but we have different view on the issue. he thinks it is alright but i don't want to raise my children resembling that. what can i do to convience him that his daughter is more important than getting drunk?
there's actually nought you can do to convince him to quit drinking. He will have to make that choice for himself, if he ever does. The best item for you to do is not play his games. It's harsh, but you should leave. Don't even contribute him the option of quit or I'll leave--just leave. If he hits his bottom, he'll find a process to get sober. If not, it's hard but your daughter and you are better sour. I would say that is probably extremely difficult to purely "convince" him to stop drinking.
Suggest AA meetings, and if he doesn't want to go, influence that you will go with him!! It's other good to show support!
I'm sure there are family to contact to help him.
I hope things work out!
He's not going to do anything about it until he feels he have a problem and wants to quit. That day may never come. You enjoy to decide if it is something you can handle. I would infer it wouldn't be. Tell him to pick alcohol or his family. That might just bring back him to understand there is a problem. Then whip it from there. But until he thinks he have a drinking problem, your fighting a losing battle.
Take protection and don't give up!
Leave him before it get worse. While your gone he'll either realize what an idiot he is for losing you to alcohol, or he won't. No one can convince to stop drinking, he has to want to stop drinking on his own. Be STRONG. Don't guess you can change him because you can't! This is such a common myth. He won't alter for you, or his daughter. Sure he'll say he will be you have to show him you stingy buisness. Leave him because your daughter doesn't deserve to live with an alcoholic father and you should know that better than anyone since you grew up with one. Get out back it's to late. Unfortunately, you won't be able to convince him. He'll own to convince himself. If he just stops drinking because YOU want him to, it probably won't last.
You can lay it on the column: tell him your concerns and let him know where on earth you stand. It will be tough, but the ultimate decision will rest next to him. If you feel that you need to make higher your daughter outside of the situation you're currently in, don't feel guilty roughly speaking it. You have to look out for the well-being of a little one who can't pinch care of herself.
If he decides that the two of you are more prominent than drinking, there are a lot of ways that he can seize help. Alcoholics Anonymous would be a good place to start. Even if he doesn't move about to their meetings, I'm sure that they have a great deal of resources. You could find the chapter in your area or call round their website (below.)
Call your local hospital for additional information. They may have a program that will allow him to dry out within a setting that doesn't have the temptation or stress level that would set him down the road to another drink.
Don't kid yourself...it won't be easy. He's in for a bit of a rough time if he decide to give up drinking. He'll need abundantly of support from you. Good luck.
I would say that is probably extremely difficult to purely "convince" him to stop drinking.
Suggest AA meetings, and if he doesn't want to go, influence that you will go with him!! It's other good to show support!
I'm sure there are family to contact to help him.
I hope things work out!
Answers: Sorry to say, but until he recognize that he has a problem, there's nothing you can do in the order of it. Sometimes addicts just hold to hit rock bottom or be shocked by one incident to realize they have a problem and do something about it. My bf have always liked to drink a bit too much, and once second year, he had surgery and needed Vicodin for pain. He took that opportunity to play beside the Vicodin and vodka, and ended up getting addicted to the pills in smaller amount than 2 weeks. He didn't act like himself. His doc told him that the combination of the pills and the vodka accelerate the addiction. Luckily, that scared the mess out of him and it hasn't happened again, and he's even cut instrument back on his drinking. He's lucky that he is able to do that on his own.
You right to be heard you don't have an option, but you do. You own to decide if you're better off next to him or without him, and act according to that finding. If his drinking is making your life miserable, then it would be better if you vanished him. You can still let him have visitation, but brand it clear that there will be no tolerance on his drinking while with the little one.
Unfortunately, you won't be able to convince him. He'll own to convince himself. If he just stops drinking because YOU want him to, it probably won't last.
You can lay it on the column: tell him your concerns and let him know where on earth you stand. It will be tough, but the ultimate decision will rest next to him. If you feel that you need to make higher your daughter outside of the situation you're currently in, don't feel guilty roughly speaking it. You have to look out for the well-being of a little one who can't pinch care of herself.
If he decides that the two of you are more prominent than drinking, there are a lot of ways that he can seize help. Alcoholics Anonymous would be a good place to start. Even if he doesn't move about to their meetings, I'm sure that they have a great deal of resources. You could find the chapter in your area or call round their website (below.)
Call your local hospital for additional information. They may have a program that will allow him to dry out within a setting that doesn't have the temptation or stress level that would set him down the road to another drink.
Don't kid yourself...it won't be easy. He's in for a bit of a rough time if he decide to give up drinking. He'll need abundantly of support from you. Good luck.
Honestly if he cant see that with his own eyes, no one could ever convince him. I know its sturdy but you leave him, do better for yourself and your child. Since you said you grew up with a alcoholic father dont you want a untried start for yourself, not living your whole life beside males figures whos answer to everything is drinking and drinking is more important consequently life and a family. I know from exprience beside a alcoholic father and I hope to escape it one day and I wouldnt want to have a husband thats a alcoholic. Its freshly like reliving my past. Best of luck and do whats right for yourself and child. Hello ,
I drank for 35 years and in a minute have been within recovery for 5 years. Recovery is a journey a plan to be better, become better and contract with all my problems skipper on. Now I don’t deal with adjectives the problems alone because I can’t …(I only found this out after I stopped drinking). I just want you to twig that ….I know what I’m talking about. As much as you love him and his daughter …you are newly continuing the trend with your daughter yes your daughter…See your mother taught you to deem the way you do from a very young at heart age and I’m assuming she staid with your father…..but if not afterwards your dad taught you to tolerate the alcoholic.. So take this from a individual that has been in attendance many times and stopped buying the tea shirts..
ok ok here is the answer
So other than ram AA , and other things down his mouth which only gets him batty and you mad , and the blame game…on and on
Its time…its time to change things and the point that needs to change is “YOU”. What do I plan by change, I must sound nuts you say…but wait…. you are addicted too.
Its call co-addicted or co-addiction. Look it up…..
See if you get yourself some help next to this problem then you will break the chain …the tie up …yes you will not pass your co-addiction to your daughter.
Stop ….roll …and …change…..You change….. Think of yourself…..first “ALWAYS” …then your daughter …..Then your boy friend….
If you change the opening you approach YOUR problem and change the way you have nightmares around you, and look to better yourself, grow stronger inside, the greatest thing in the world will come about I promise.
Ok you can go to a Provincial (Canada) sponsored help center which by ruling will help because you are co-addicted, you can go to the local mental condition institute who by law have to assist you with counseling, Go to AA and sit in a small union and ask for help…. Guaranteed to get it…
See the only track you are going to be happy in the long run…. is something have to happen..You are never alone just pickup the phone and call…. I promise you will convince him
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